A Culture of Honor

A Culture of Honor

Since our goal is to be more like Christ, then we must wonder why we fall into the trap of negativity with our words and actions.  It’s because there is no active Culture of Honor in place. Releasing honor must be a core value in how a person lives and interacts with others. 

Our first duty is to give honor to God so this is and always will be a house that brings honor to the name above every name, Jesus!  We want the people of GAP to be those who honor God first and also consistently look for ways to honor other people. Developing this culture must become intentional. We need to honor each other and always build each other up in private and public, looking for ways to bless each other and support each other in life and ministry. 

Biblical Background for a Culture Of Honor

Even if your judgment of another person is accurate, if your words, tones, or body language expose their faults by focusing on their weaknesses, then you have stepped outside of the core value of walking in a culture of honor and grace. Love covers other people’s faults, does not complain about them, and does not seek to expose.

Proverbs 17:9 He who covers a transgression seeks love, But he who repeats a matter separates friends.

1 Peter 4:8-9 8 And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” 9 Be hospitable to one another without grumbling.

Core Values

Honor: We seek to put love into action by creating a culture of honor and viewing each person as one of God’s creations and worthy of great respect, value, and importance.

Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;

Grace: We seek for our words to be seasoned with grace and encouragement, speaking to the treasure within a person and not exposing their faults.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.

Honor involves deciding to put love into action by giving a person a position of high value and worth in our life. Even if something in their life has been disappointing, hurtful, or wounding to us, honor chooses to make a decision not to respond in like-kind. No matter what is felt from another person, honor chooses to not expose but speak words that give grace to the hearer.

Honor views people as a precious creation of God and grants each a position of respect. Honor chooses not to respond with an unwholesome word or tone. To not give honor is to assign dishonor. Judgment, resentment, anger, exposure, sarcasm, criticism, comparisons, favoritism, jealousy, selfishness, envy, racism, etc. are all weapons of dishonor men use against those they consider of little value or worth.

Every time someone’s name who has devalued us comes up in conversation, we have a decision to make. We’re either going to arm ourselves with a weapon of dishonor or we are going to give an unmerited gift of honor. There’s no middle ground! We can be 100% right in our evaluation of a person’s faults or weaknesses or how they’ve disappointed us but love covers and does not expose other’s weaknesses.

What are we communicating when we talk to people? Do others feel value and worth being spoken by us over those whom others may feel have little worth? Genuine love gives honor; self-love takes honor and dispenses dishonor. Not to honor can actually become a self-imposed curse and may result in a cloud or shadow of judgment hanging over our home, work place, church, or relationships.

When someone who has disappointed me comes up in a conversation, do my words, tone, or body language bring honor or do I draw out a weapon of dishonor? Am I trying to punish people by exposing their faults? Is my body language covering or uncovering them? Is my conversation bringing exposure or is it leading to restoration? Is that person’s redemption at the root of my words or am I seeking to make myself look better by uncovering their faults?

What is the root issue during the times that I do not honor and speak words that are seasoned with grace? Could I still have insecurities in my life? Do I have a need to help God manage His universe so I’ve become God’s policeman? Do I walk in an over demanding sense of justice not realizing that what I demand I cannot inherit? Could it be past rejections, abandonment issues, betrayals, or previous wounding that have hurt me in the past are now influencing me to overcompensate by forcing “justice” in the present.

Developing a Culture of Honor

1) Take Ownership

Proverbs 28:13 He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.

The biggest challenge: will you try to walk in denial of this or are you willing to take ownership? Are you able to see that you have used weapons of dishonor against others in your evaluation of them? How will you respond from here? Why not face the discomfort of repentance now and begin to confront attitudes and behavior that misrepresent God’s love to others?

The whole exercise of trying to justify or place blame on another person is a waste of time and accomplishes nothing. No matter how much fault I find in another person or the amount of blame with which I charge him, it is not going to improve me or make me happy. The only thing I accomplish in such an exercise is to keep the spotlight off of the things in me that misrepresent God’s love and grace. Then my personal maturity and growth is stunted.

I may succeed in making someone else feel guilty, and I may discharge a lot of negative emotions, but I will not succeed in changing whatever it is about my innate disposition that is making me less than noble. Nobody makes me respond in a dishonoring way. It is my own insecurities and need to vindicate myself that dishonors another person. I can take ownership of this truth and seek to lay down all my really good and well-rehearsed excuses!

2) Become Accountable

Ephesians 4:15 AMP Let our lives lovingly express truth in all things, speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly. Enfolded in love, let us grow up in every way and in all things into Him who is the Head, even Christ.

I can choose to not delay in facing the pain of taking ownership of the issues in my life rising from the need to be right. I can ask others to speak the truth in love and hold me accountable for my attitudes and actions. I can give them permission to let me know if they ever feel that I am drifting off the center of love and honor in my attitudes towards others.

Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

I can ask God (pray) to be a good steward of the revelation of God’s love that He has given us.

3) Bless the Good

1 Peter 3:8-9 8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; 9 not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.

Ninety-three percent of all communication is not words but non-verbal attitudes communicated through tone and body language. When a name of a person who has disappointed you comes up in conversation are your tone, body language, and words seasoned by grace? Often, we handle disappointment by keeping our mouth shut if we don’t have anything good to say, but that communicates something negative. Silence speaks rejection. Instead, as soon as their name comes up, we can think about their strengths and how to bring a word of edification about them. Honor is a decision we choose to make to give a person worth and value.

How do you speak about the body of Christ or the church across town? How do you talk about other ministries that may not have the revelation that God has given you? How do you chat about people who leave your ministry, church, or work place? If we are going to be an imparter of life and healing to a hurting world, to your family and work place, then we have the responsibility to make a decision to put love into action by leading the way with a lifestyle of giving undeserved honor and grace. God does! Will you accept the challenge? 

Creating Life Through A Culture Of Honor

As ambassadors of Christ we have a responsibility to establish the government of heaven here on earth. That government is built on a foundation of honor. We find in Exodus 20:12 that if we honor our parents we will live a long life in the land God has established for us. Note the connection between honor and life. Honor enables the impartation of long life and is the key ingredient to creating and maintaining a kingdom culture. Where honor resides it creates life and freedom. Where there is no honor, people begin to fear; and where fear is established, people begin to control and fight for place and position.

1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

In a culture of fear, love is cast out. Where honor is present our relationship with one another grows. I’m able to love you and not fear you. I’m able to love you regardless of what you have done and regardless of us not agreeing on everything. Where honor is present I don’t fear what you are becoming and the anointing on your life.. You are free to be who you are in Christ and I love the Christ in you. If I fear you, then I try to control you and what you become. I cannot let you surpass me. 

The concept of honor is only possible through relationships recognized with our brothers and sisters in the kingdom as meant to be eternal and held together with honor. The world’s view is temporal and conditional. We give honor to those who deserve it, who have earned it, or those from whom we want something.

1 Peter 2:17 Honor all people. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king.

When we release honor to all people, what we are declaring is, “I am not letting my disagreements with you or your character defects control me. I have standards that will not be moved regardless of our disagreements and what you may have done to me; it will not control who I am.”

We think by not honoring it protects us, but it actually does the opposite. It allows the person we feel we can’t honor to control who we are. We are not called to honor people because they are honorable but because we are! To honor does not mean we agree with what they said or did; it means we value them as a person created in the image and likeness of God. By honoring all people you draw out the goodness of God hidden inside them.