No floods can ever quench this love, no rivers drown it. If a man offered all he has for love, he would be laughed aside. —Song of Solomon 8:7 (Moffatt)


Key #29: Yet I insist that among you also, each man is to love his own wife as much as he loves himself, and let a married woman see to it that she treats her husband with respect.—Ephesians 5:33 (Weymouth Translation)


Marital Relationships


The will of God in marital relationships is built upon an attitude of lifelong love. H. Norman Wright wrote that a marriage may be made in heaven, but the maintenance must be done on earth. Just as commitment and imagination will cause romance to grow in a healthy relationship, so marriage is a lifestyle based upon love, passion, and intimacy. It is what you make of it. Under God, it is the most important relationship in your life. Guard your marriage from all intruders! Never allow friends, family, work, or anything else to come between you and your spouse. Getting a breakthrough in your marriage begins with three important words…I LOVE YOU! Love and respect go hand in hand, along with considering each other first before others.


Marriage is lifelong, and made of time! Spend it wisely! Share with each other, listen carefully to each other, and enjoy each other with fun times. Worship together, pray together, laugh together (laughing together is like medicine, it heals wounds)—after all, you are one.


I Corinthians 13:7 says, “Love bears up under everything and anything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything (without weakening).” (The Amplified Bible)


An anonymous writer penned these words—enriching your relationship is a sound investment! Amen! Godly investments bring eternal rewards.

Husband/wife exercise:

Make a wish list of 3 things you would like your partner to do more often.



Joshua 24:15 – Heavenly Father, I declare as a covenant child bought with the blood of Jesus to walk in peace and harmony with my spouse, loving and considering him/her more precious than anything You have ever given me. In so doing, we together build a spiritual, strong family whose household chooses without wavering to be devoted to You and to serve You and You alone.


Journal Question:

How can I yield to the Holy Spirit in fulfilling the exercise wish list?


Resources: Video: Hidden Keys to Loving Relationship

(2 videos), Gary Smalley

Marriage 101

, Myles Monroe


Key #30: For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. —Romans 8:29 (NIV)

The Single Christian


There are many things our culture and the Church at large assume about Christian singles. There are erroneous assumptions such as “Marriage will complete you”, “You’re only half a person until you’re married”, “Of course you want a mate!” Many singles have been treated like singleness is a disease that only marriage can cure. Many have been hurt by this.


Whether people want a mate or not is a personal decision between them and the Lord. What’s important for all singles to remember is that this is a productive period of life to serve God unhindered by marital obligations. The purpose of being single is not to be in some limbo waiting period before marriage and before your life can begin; rather it is a time to consecrate yourself unto God in service for the Kingdom. The above verse should be the goal of all single believers: being “…

conformed to the likeness of his Son

…” If this becomes the focus, we will see Biblically clearer, and then we can put marital hopes and desires in God’s hands and move on in the Kingdom of God.


It is a breakthrough to know your happiness in life is not dependent upon another person, or marriage. Our purpose in life has to do with how we are conformed to Christ, and not to our society and other people’s expectations of us. Do you desire marriage? If yes, then let God develop you into Mr. Right or Miss Right, instead of looking for Mr. Right or Miss Right. If your desire is not for marriage then become active and consumed in Kingdom pursuits. After all, in the light of eternity, what else really matters?



I am content in God’s plan and purpose for my life.



Father God, may the eyes of my heart become enlightened to Your calling on my life and Your plans for my life. Show me where I have put other people’s expectations for me ahead of Your plans, and show me how I can be conformed to the image of Your Son just as I am. In Jesus’ Name I ask, Amen.


Journaling Question:

Do I see myself awaiting marriage so that my life can begin? (If you’re desiring a mate) How will I prepare myself to be the man/woman of God for my future mate? (If you don’t desire a mate) What am I not doing as a single saint that I should be doing in serving God?


Resources: Book: God’s Call to the Single Adult, Michael Cavanaugh; Choosing a Mate, Dr. Ken Stewart; Divorce and Remarriage

, Dr. Ken Stewart


Key #31: We love because He first loved us.—1 John 4:19 (NASB)


Family Relationships


In Key #29 , we discussed breakthroughs in our marital relationships. This key goes hand in hand with that. Is there love in your family? Is there affection in your family? Aren’t they the same? Not really. God has commanded us to love one another (I John 4:7-8) and gives us an example of that love in I John 4:10-11, and we are empowered by that love in I John 4:19. But even though we know we are to love one another, do we really like each other in our family? Do we prefer each other?


Webster’s Dictionary defines affection as emotion, feeling, attachment, devotion, or love. I am convinced that love and affection are puzzle pieces in helping to build a strong family. Affection is liking each other, communicating with one another, being with one another while going through life’s circumstances. It also, as in marital relationships, must be built into us.


Henry David Thoreau stated, “It takes two to speak the truth… one to speak, another to hear.” Affection knows how to communicate and listen! Proverbs 24:26 declares, “He kisses the lips of those who give honest answers.” Family relationships are based on Godly love, affection, and honest communication. Someone said God gave us two ears and one mouth so we would listen twice as much as we speak.


Wisdom is needed to cause unity and peace in a family. It is His presence in our families that will bring wholeness and breakthrough.



Spend quality time with your family (at least one time) this week.



Heavenly Father, I thank You that my house is securely built. It is founded on a rock, Your Holy Word, and Jesus is our cornerstone. Jesus is Lord of our household, our family. Whatever our task may be, we work at it heartily as something done for You, Lord, and not for men. We love each other with the God kind of love, and we dwell in peace. My family is entrusted to Your protection and care. Father, as for me and my house, we will serve You. In Jesus’ name, AMEN!


Journal Exercise:

As a family, discuss the highlights of your time together.


Resources: Video: Hidden Keys to Successful

Parenting (2 VHS Cassettes), Gary Smalley

Complete Marriage & Family Home Reference Guide

, James Dobson


Special Relationships: Extended Family


Scripture clearly shows us that we have an obligation to our immediate families. If we neglect our own family, we act worse than unbelievers and heathens (1 Timothy 5:8). The husband, wife, child and parent are of the highest priority in our obligations as Christians. We can’t neglect them and say we love God. However, there are more difficult family connections in the natural: the extended families. Extended families can be grandparents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, cousins, in-laws etc. They may not be immediate family, but we do have relationship with them and interaction with them. (Some might be immediate family based on how our personal family is structured). If people are honest, they will also tell of the difficulties many extended families can bring to us.


Dealing with extended families and the many problems they can have in their lives is a challenge to many Christian families. Many need breakthroughs in dealing with extended family members. Realizing we are spirit beings is a key to this breakthrough. The greatest thing we can do is to diligently believe God for and claim their salvation. Praying that they would have an encounter with the living Christ is our first duty to them. Showing them the love of Christ is our second duty. When our prayers of love are mixed with actions of love and compassion, we present a living witness of the Christ that has changed our lives.


Very often extended family will read your behavior and actions before they will listen to your words. In the above verse, we see that we are God’s epistle, a letter of His love, that all can see and read by the actions of our lives. When they see a gospel that works, then their spiritual thirst will question and yearn for the God we know. The greatest ministry we can have to our extended families is to be Jesus in the flesh to them, and minister the love that God expresses through us!



I am a living letter of His love to my whole extended family.



Father God, help me to understand how you would use me to love my extended family to Christ. Show me how to stand in the gap for them in prayer, that they would come to know Christ as savior. In Jesus’ Name I ask, Amen.


Resources: Book: How to Pray for Lost Loved Ones, Dutch Sheets; The Power of a Godly Grandparent

, Stephen and Janet Bly